"No" is a power stance. When used to set boundaries or limits, or even to make a position known, it is helpful. But it can also be used to have power-over and creates barriers to connection. This blog shares how and why "No" is used in healthy and unhealthy communication.

When we attribute success to the behavior of others, we are abdicating or own power. To create the life we want for ourselves we need to focus on our own inner compass and lean into our own wants, needs, and desires.

I am worthy.

I was born worthy.

Only no one told me.

I thought I had to please,

To ease, to satisfy, just to ask for a crumb.

Crumbs from the table of worthy.

Understanding this relationship with myself began with understanding my relationship with the word, “no”. The realization that I was saying “yes” when I meant or felt “no” was something I had gotten used to. I didn’t like it, but didn’t everyone feel this way? Well, that’s what I thought

The please and appease response is one that was adaptive for us at young age, and now has lost this helpfulness. It is important to honor this adaptation and understand the roots of where it came from. This will put you on the road to recovery.